I will not fall into the trap. I will not fall into the trap that our adults wants me to fall into…that my ego wants me to fall into…that my righteousness wants to fall into. They want me to chime in. They want me to take a position. “You’re right and you’re wrong”. They want me to say. Don’t you hear me? Don’t you understand? Why can’t you just get it…? They are to blame! Can you hear it? It is everywhere.
The NRA wants to arm our teachers and principles. They want me to believe that the world needs more good guys with guns, positioned in our kindergarden classes. They want us to identify and separate the “unknown number of genuine monsters” that populate our society.
Our politicians are taking action with a capital A. They want me to believe they are pushing forward their “sensible gun control” reform. They are deploying task forces and demanding a legislative “plan”. They are going to close the holes in our mental health system. They are going to “fix” our country so Newtown, CT never happens again.
Blah biddy blah biddy blah blah blah. Round and round we go… where we stop we will never know. Before our very eyes, we are falling into the trap. We are creating opposition. We are taking positions. We are dividing our nation once again. Why are we so addicted to separation?
My head is spinning. I write this post today because of that, not because I have some providential point that I need to get across. I have bitten my finger nails long enough trying to wrap my head around how 20 beautiful children of God could have been murdered in an elementary school in the United States of America. The only thing that makes any sense to me is that we continue to “whore out” separation and use “taking positions” as a solution to end our suffering. Separating ourselves farther and farther from one another.
When will we ever get it. WE ARE ALL ONE AND WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS IN OUR LIVES. I am not talking about taking responsibility, as in being guilty for another man’s crime. I am talking about taking a hard look in the mirror and seeing where we are responsible for separating ourselves from one another on a daily basis.
How do we protect and save our most precious resource…our children? Everybody is trying to figure it out. That is the new “in” position to take. But don’t you see?… They are already saved. They are the ones that have all the answers. They are the ones trying to tell us how to live our lives…BUT WE ARE NOT LISTENING.
In all of the post Newtown chaos, unease, and anger, underneath the “positions” that the NRA and our politicians are taking, one father listened to his heart and did what every pure loving child in the world wants us to do for them. Warren Tidwell created the movement #26ActsOfKindness with a simple solution: Be kind, love, and pay that forward to another human soul. Our children have been trying to tell us this since the beginning of time… “We do not need to be saved, we need you to listen to us, see what we see, through our eyes, through our love for one another.”
The fact of the matter is, there is something inside all of us that knows this. There is a deep, inner sense of knowing that we “should” be living our lives through the love and dreams of when we were children. We just choose not to be there. We refuse to remember, so we fight. We fight ourselves dirty, creating more and more anger and more and more separation from one another.
If we really want reform and change, if we really want Newtown to never happen again, then live by the principle that our brother, Warren Tidwell “a child in adult clothing”, is teaching us with #26Acts. “Take the focus off of YOU and give to THEM”. Stop spending your days trying to figure out your own life and start spending it giving to another human being. And in that, I promise you will figure it all out.
Brian Larrabee is co-founder of the Non-profit for children “Playground of Dreams” http://www.playgroundofdreams.org @LarrabeeB